When the Bowl First Breaks - Self-Assessment | The Craft of Self-Compassion

Question 1 of 15

When you make a mistake, do you replay it in your mind repeatedly?

Question 2 of 15

Do you struggle to accept compliments or positive feedback?

Question 3 of 15

After a setback, do you find it hard to talk about what happened?

Question 4 of 15

Do you often feel like you're the only one who struggles this way?

Question 5 of 15

When things go wrong, do you immediately blame yourself?

Question 6 of 15

Do you avoid taking risks for fear of failing again?

Question 7 of 15

Do you feel your mistakes define who you are as a person?

Question 8 of 15

After a disappointment, do you withdraw from others?

Question 9 of 15

Do you set impossibly high standards for yourself?

Question 10 of 15

When you fall short, do you call yourself harsh names?

Question 11 of 15

When you experience failure, what is your first emotional reaction?

Deep shame or feeling fundamentally flawed Anger at myself or frustration Denial or minimizing what happened Curiosity about what I can learn

Question 12 of 15

How long does it typically take you to recover emotionally from a setback?

Days or weeks - I ruminate extensively Several hours to a day Pretty quickly - within an hour or so I don't fully recover - it stays with me

Question 13 of 15

What story do you tell yourself about why you failed?

"I'm fundamentally broken or not good enough" "It was the circumstances, not really about me" "I made a mistake and can learn from it" "I don't think about it - I push it away"

Question 14 of 15

Who do you reach out to (or not) when you're struggling with failure?

No one - I isolate and process alone A trusted friend, partner, or therapist Multiple people - I seek different perspectives Everyone - I seek constant reassurance

Question 15 of 15

Think of a recent breaking point or significant failure. Describe what happened and how you're currently dealing with it. What do you wish you could do differently?